| F'kin Girls Only Outings |
[Oct. 29th, 2008|08:49 pm] |
I guess this is one of those 'Things I Hate' rants.
Not unlike most gay guys. Having come out not long after high school, I found myself over time being rejected by my straight guy friends. In hindsight I don't think there was any malicious intent. Most straight guys get on with other guys who are into the same kinda stuff as they are, it's nothing too deep, quite shallow really, as their relationships usually lack emotional substance.
In the last 8 or so years, most of my solid friendships have come through knowing people who share a very similar outlook on the world. These friendships don't rely on merely common interests or shallow novelty occurrences. And yes, unfortunately most of these tend to be women.
But women you see, have this thing, where they are compelled to have their 'Girls only catchups', or 'Girls only photos', or 'Girls only rooms'. It's like there's some cheap form of enjoyment in being able to exclude the opposite gender and indulge in some girly conversations. Fair enough, most men, straight men inparticular have no interest in these 'girl only' outings and vice versa.
So naturally, I get rejected by the women too. A few of my closer friends recognise me as being 'one of the girls'. But so many still enjoy doing the exclusion thing. As if it is a convenience thing to exclude me when they feel like it. I used to have lunch with my old work collegue Karen everyday. On her last day, the girls organised a lunch and of course I wasn't invited, cos I don't have a fanny (not that I plan on acquiring one :-)). What really upset me was that every lunch time she would bitch and complain about lots of the other women, then when it comes to her last day, she would prefer to share it with them than her real friends.
You know what this really pisses the shit out of me. Women are just as bad as homophobic Men. What happened to valuing the content of one's character?
If I was to say, "sorry girls, it's boys only today". They wouldn't care, replying something like "well we don't care about boy's stuff". If I was to confront any of them about it, they'd see me as a high maintenance cry baby, and I don't want that. It's lose, lose, nothing I can do about it.
So I guess I'm going to be rejected by the men and by the women in my lifetime. At times I feel like no one understands me. Gotta love our culture of blind people. |
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| knock knock, anyone still out there? |
[Sep. 20th, 2008|09:59 pm] |
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It's been a while, but I'm really proud to see that people are still posting on LJ. It wasn't the intention, but geez facebook has completely taken over my way of internet social networking.
I reckon there's a relationship between the frequency of nights out/drinking and facebook/LJ use. The last year for me(up until about a month ago), it's all been about the Saturday night out getting completely maggot with your buddies and acquaintances, starring in various photo poses, getting tagged in facebook albums and commenting about them with your buddies for the next week until the next Saturday night out. Taking time out to reflect and think about life seems to have taken a back seat, hence the lack of thought mapping on LJ.
I've done this often enough to know its probably just a phase reflecting where I'm at. After sacraficing several years of complete mental attachment to a degree, we deserve a change, so cheers to the times where one can regularly mentally detach, have a wild time and not worry about the late nights for the next month. At least I can finally say I've lived.
But now, my fitness is reaching its peak, I've gone from struggling to jog a km or 2, to jogging to the narrows and back (10kms) quite comfortably. Cycling to work 3 days a week, and playing Centre for my Mixed netball team. I want to do triathlon, and I guess it's time to go dry (or drier at least). I definately feel better for it.
Big plus with not drinking as much is the extra money in the account at fortnight's end. I've locked in my date of departure to overseas at 1 November 2009. Someone slap me if I'm still in Perth by then.
Reading back over my past LJ entries (especially the private ones), I fully appreciate the role LJ can play in keeping one's ambitions on track and going in the right direction. |
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| Mainy :-/ |
[Oct. 1st, 2007|10:03 am] |
oh my goodness, I'm absolutely shocked, almost in tears to hear about Chris Mainwaring, so young, and at the peak of his life. He was such a nice bloke, especially when I met him as a kid. I think most Perth people will be in mourning today, whether you were into footy or not, he had such a large warm felt presence reading the news on tv and radio. I never thought I'd ever say this about someone half famous or a footy player, but I'll miss him.
The other night when reading the sports report, he was continually getting his words wrong, as if he was unwell or had lots on his mind, maybe the signs of being over stressed for a long period of time? |
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| Royal Show |
[Sep. 29th, 2007|05:37 pm] |
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Is there anyone going to the show on Monday and wanna come hang with us for a look around, a few rides and games at side show alley? |
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| Chasers Antics |
[Sep. 6th, 2007|09:12 pm] |
I cannot stress how much I enjoyed hearing about the Chaser team making it past 2 APEC security gate checks, and dressing as Osama.
What a way to make a retard of the f'kin ridiculous Berlin Wall style lockdown of a city, for the sake of mainly one George W. Bush.
Even more hilarious, the way everyone's trying to make out like it was a stupid thing to do and that it's 'not funny'. If that's the Politicians way of trying to control what I find amusing, by telling me it's not, then think again.
Good on ya guys. |
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| Minneapolis |
[Aug. 8th, 2007|07:40 pm] |
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My favourite song by ABC, where a glorious 3 minutes is spent repeating the word to some soft funky electro retro beat. My escape song....til last week...now all my mind can conjure up is the thought of being trapped in my car, stuck under a concrete. |
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| Anchors Away |
[Jul. 27th, 2007|09:31 pm] |
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So so excited right now... I managed to book myself a Contiki tour next month- 2 days on a yacht sailing around the WhitSunday Islands to Townsville and Cairns where I can snorkel the Great Barrier Reef, and white water raft...and maybe bungee if I'm feeling game enough. I've never really done something like this on my own before, so should be an interesting experience. At the very least great to have a getaway. |
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| Dreaming of a Getaway |
[Jul. 23rd, 2007|08:26 pm] |
I made the decision, changing to a job with few hours/no overtime and slightly more pay...I thought this be the time to do a quick getaway and have a break on my own, not had one for a yr, and the thought of having to accrue annual leave again from scratch is not a great prospect.
I found the dream getaway package in North Queensland, with a bakpacker tour going through the Whitsundays, Townsville, Cairns and Great Barrier Reef...but the only date which hadn't booked out is on Cal's Birthday...so I'm emailing every travel agent I can find, hoping there's a similar tour package out there somewhere.
I guess there's always Broome, fingers crossed...are there any travel agents out there who can help???? |
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| Volunteer Work |
[Jul. 11th, 2007|06:31 pm] |
At some point in the near future when things settle, I really want to get into some kind of volunteer work. Currently I'm researching different organisations, and was wondering if anyone could recommend one?
Some that I've considered so far;
RSPCA - I feel that any time that I put in will be offset by human stupidity. Plus I get too emotional when I see the commercials with close ups of puppy dogs eyes.
Big Brother - Something I wish I had when I was younger. Being able to mentor and make a difference in a young person's life would be really special. Although I've heard stories of families who neglect the system, selfish single mothers using it for their sons until they find a new boyfriend.
Aids Council - I guess its a more meaningful substitute for student queer politics. There are a number of interesting roles that don't involve protesting down Forrest Place. Plus I would like to help raise awareness of STDs for straight girls/guys.
People Who Care - (Helping with the Elderly) - Unfortunately I cannot pretend to look interested while listening to life stories.
Salvation Army - Religion Based, enough said!
WA Gender Project - As much as I am passionate about their cause, it looks too activist focused.
Pride - In my mind it is too closely linked with the superficiality of the scene.
Asthma Foundation - Swim/Camp. Great way to give back, after years of involvement in Asthma swim and Asthma camp, playing with kids, educating them about living with asthma.
At the moment I'm thinking Aids Council or Asthma Foundation... |
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| Despite the Hollywood Ending... |
[May. 28th, 2007|11:49 am] |
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Finally a movie I related to and I wish I'd seen 2 yrs ago, 'The Holiday'. Lucky for Iris she had the chance in the perfect set of circumstances to get off her chest how she felt about Jasper...So empowering for anyone who felt screwed over by someone over a reasonably longer period of time. |
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| Bonnie Has No Talent |
[Apr. 23rd, 2007|09:26 am] |
I don't know why I've become hooked on all things, Australia's Got Talent...perhaps Red Simons and his hilariously witty comments...anyway
In last night's Grand Final, the show ended with 2 12y/o 'divas', both pitchy...but the last girl Bonnie, dragged her church choir and did an American Style "I Love Jesus" song....
HOW F'KIN' AWFUL!!!!!!!!
Please leave religion out of this Bonnie, you're turning this into the Benny Hinn conversion theatre.
The defining moment that made me screech was the screechy pitched over enthusiastic Jeee-eeee-eee-sussss....it was so unbelievable as if she was trying to persuade me that she really loved him.
I beg everyone to vote for the Magic Outfit Changing Couple...or even Madeline if you're sucked in by these Junior Australia Idols...
BONNIE, YOU HAVE NO TALENT, THE FACT YOU USED RELIGION TO WIN HEARTS OF MAINSTREAM VIEWERS, INDICATES YOU WERE USING A LAST RESORT, THE TACTIC OF USING RELIGION IS DIRTY. YOU SHOULD BE ASKING JESUS FOR HIS FORGIVENESS IN USING HIS NAME FOR YOUR COMMERCIAL GAIN. |
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| How Boring?? |
[Apr. 23rd, 2007|09:25 am] |
| Your Theme Song is Beautiful Day by U2 | 
"Sky falls, you feel like
It's a beautiful day
Don't let it get away"
You see the beauty in life, especially in ordinary everyday moments.
And if you're feeling down, even that seems a little beautiful too. |
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| Anti Occassion Radicalists |
[Mar. 2nd, 2007|06:46 pm] |
Well, its the Labor Day weekend, we've heard about Australia Day and Valentines Day...I'm on the edge of my seat to see if the Queer Radicalists have an angry view towards Labor Day or why we celebrate it??
For us, we're going down south to camp in Cal's backyard, (we being myself, (Cal of course), and former uni buddies Kali and Andre. The weather forecasts look stunning, should be a great long weekend.
Oh and Happy Mardi Gras to everyone heading over East!! I still regret leaving Syd a fortnight before Mardis 2 yrs ago, I should have stayed for a bit longer. The guys in my shop called me during the day, and you could feel the atmosphere in the shop, it felt electric...Despite theoretically disagreeing with Mardi Gras, it's still something I'd love to experience sometime soon. |
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| Excuse for a Post |
[Feb. 16th, 2007|07:43 pm] |
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Friday is here, time for my dose of internet for the week... 10 minutes later and I'm bored as bat shit...yay for the net free life! |
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| Best Vego Meal |
[Feb. 12th, 2007|10:46 pm] |
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At Victoria Cafe in the E-Shed Markets - the best vegetarian dish ever...an indulgent way of consuming the lunch break...'Vegetarian Mie Goreng' - stir fried egg, noodles and vegetables with this irresistable light sauce, I have no idea what it's called. |
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| Home Sweet Home |
[Feb. 10th, 2007|12:01 am] |
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A month has passed, since Cal and I moved into our cute lil unit in Como. I have to say, while the common human desire for having life under control is never ultimately acheivable, for me I'm closer to feeling that inner balance with everything than I have ever been in my life. I must be careful not to jinx myself. The big difference is the long trip from Joondalup that I never have to trek on a daily basis again. I'm getting 8 hrs sleep most nights, eating a healthier diet (thanks to Cal), the suburb is not so inward unlike the burbs, there are more shops on the streets and hence more human activity around...no internalised pre-cast concrete, air-conditioned malls for as far as the eye can see (how a community should be *english accent*). The river is on our door step practically, provides the perfect scenery for the afternoon jog. When relaxing, we have the river view, aswell as a few tree canopies that surround our bedroom (giving privacy and protecting our eyes from the hidious block of units across the street), when the sea-breeze comes in, while laying on the bed, all I can see is the sky and green of the trees, I almost feel disconnected from the inner-urban lifestyle. Proximity wise, we're so much closer to most things, I cannot get over being a 5 minute drive from the City Centre! Work is only 20 minutes away and all the shops I could ever need sit between us and Fremantle. IGA fruit and veg is divine, and they're open til 10-11. It's great.
Only bummer, work has me working back late most nights, 1am the other week. It's ridiculous, I have to be careful that it doesn't intrude on this newly desired life balance I have going. However this is the nature of the industry, BUT I have been lucky enough to design! Designing is better than orgasming. I know most students have to wait years to get that opportunity. But Tom is great, he's all for learning. He lets me run with the design and embraces it, helping me achieve my design objectives, to an extent obviously, but overall I'm being presented with awesome opportunties. Unlike some graduates, who will get pigeon holed into doing shop fronts for 2 years, I've been doing fragments of all areas of the practice...such a complex industry. But what an amazing learning curve this has been, and will continue to be. I wonder sometimes, we do a 5 year degree, and come out not knowing how the industry works. In the space of a couple months, I've consulted with authorities, councils over planning approvals, trade consultants, clients, spatial planning, design concept research, working documentation and how to use all those software programs that I was too scared to touch until recently, oh and use a cuppacino machine. I guess the only way to get the most out of learning is to be thrown in the deep end as early as possible.
The other thing to ponder now, is where I want to be in the near future. I guess the future is all mine now...the only thing stopping me is me, so I have decide what I'm going to do...so far I'm listing possibilities of things I would love to experience in this life:
1) to chase, or at least see a tornado in Texas or Oklahoma, possibly Kansas to retrace Dorothy's steps.
2) re-pursue chess as a competitive sport - avenge my state junior title loss in '97.
3) New York City, San Francisco, Vancouver, Rome, Eiffel Tower, Barcelona, Greek Isles, Swiss Alps and India.
4) Colombia - despite how dangerous it is, visit my cousins and relatives again.
5) spark a movement in revolutionalising the development of rooftop Architecture as a theme in Australia - it's more sustainable than a house in the burbs with acres of land, or even worse, lawn all around it.
6) develop my values for reuse in Architecture, connected with the destruction of the notion of the spectacle in our society, and perhaps publish when I'm grey.
7) adopt - I have strong parental instincts, and there are millions of unwanted children being born into this world
I guess thats a decent list to start with, I guess it could change, or grow, but for now, I guess that's where I currently stand with the future. Most importantly, nothing can come before good health, family, friends for life - I'm over putting effort into meaningless interactions with people. AND of course a partner to share this life with, more than sex and friendship, but the enjoyment of life on a day to day basis, currently I can tick this one off on my 'to find' list. I love my boy to bits :-) |
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| An Update |
[Dec. 24th, 2006|05:59 am] |
The last month has gone so so fast, I started my new job straight after thesis, so there hasn't really been any serious rest time til about now. The job is great, finally I'm doing something real, and not working on pretend projects. The office is ontop of the E-Shed Markets in Freo overlooking Victoria Quay, it's such a beautiful view, I can see the masts of each ship that comes in and out of the harbour from my desk. Behind me is a massive plasma playing the music channel, gives the office a great vibe. On the downer I'm working late every night, but at least its not thesis.
At the moment I'm so happy and content with life, for once I have nothing to whine about *touches wood*
In between I had my 25th party/gathering, which I had such an awesome time, thanks guys for coming along, it was nice and inimate. I still have ooodles of spirits left so I'm sure there'll be plenty more chances to drink em all up. Gift of the night was an WC Eagles polo, which I'm absolutely in love with, thanks to Michelle and Gordy, I WILL be wearing to the court one evening soon!
Other exciting news, Cal and I are moving into a unit in early Jan, 2 homos living in Como. Next week I'm going down to see him in Busso, meeting his parents (his dad for the first time hopefully), then the boy will be taking me around the South-West to show me where he grew up etc. So cute, I cannot wait.
I guess after these few weeks, I'll be in a position where I've achieved all that I intended, I guess what now? New goals to set and decisions to make for my life direction, as yet I have no idea where I want to be in the next 5-10 yrs, which feels so wierd to how I'm used to thinking. |
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| 25 |
[Dec. 7th, 2006|03:34 pm] |
Yes, the big quarter tonner, but really I feel no different to how I was at 19 or 20. I remember thinking how old 25 was, now I put up with 18 year olds whining about turning 19...how naive we all are until we reach this feared age number. In fact, the wisdom you acquire over the years makes me dread the thought of ever being 18 or 19 again, although I do dislike the signs of aging :-/
So I see no point in being sad, plus it pisses the 30 y/o buddies off. So yeah, tomorrow at my place starting 8-9ish for FREE cocktails at my place. But guys, if you bring a bottle of your favourite spirit means there be plenty more all around.
Also feel free to bring an ipod with your favourite music to tune into the stereo, that way there be no music nazis taking over with one genre of music.
Yay can't wait. If there's anyone who for some reason didn't receive the email invite, just buzz me and I'll send you details :-) |
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| Kylie...yay |
[Dec. 3rd, 2006|09:35 pm] |
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I'm supposedly seeing Kylie tomorrow but I'm really not amped for it, honestly I wouldnt be that put out if I missed it...the hypes just not there, unlike for Robbie. |
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